You need people to congratulate you on how great you are You go around seeking their approval their little gold stars and you need to point out all the ways you are awesome to prove your worth to yourself and ward off insecurity and I guess that would be ok if that is all you did, but on top of it... You point out the short comings of others and try to hold them accountable for the things they say and the goals they make when all is right in their worlds and they feel empowered but the truth is none of us are constantly achieving our "A" game There is usually is some form of crumbling or back sliding and things happen every day to taint the view we created for ourselves yesterday so we are constantly adapting and tweaking our lives and our philosophies to suit what is happening NOW So technically you cannot hold me to what I said then....even a moment ago I am morphing and changing as we speak developing a tougher skin, or a softer underbelly because of what happened in my